I always said I didn’t want to be an old lady in a rocker who’s only memories were of how clean or perfect her house was.
1. Sleep – get the amount that makes you feel your best. In the age of DVR’s there really is no excuse. If you are a new mother with a child or baby who wakes, you could try to nap when they do.
Fill your life with as much happiness as possible and if you can’t easily keep up with the Jones’s, don’t waste your time and money trying too.
2. Be happy with what you have – I am hearing more and more about people living simply and finding joy in not having to organize, fix, clean, and deal with all the things that can crowd your day. The more things you have, the more maintaining you’ll have to do. It feels like the world is getting more expensive faster than it did the years before so we need to let go of what isn’t that important. Sometimes it helps to pick one or only a few things that you focus on doing better to start, rather then thinking you need to do it all. Remember not to compare yourself with others so you can get a better understanding of your life and what is important to you.
3. Make a point of telling yourself the truth – If you find yourself saying in your mind, what if we lose our jobs or run out of money..think..what’s the worst thing that could happen..move to a smaller home or apartment? Is it going to kill me? Tell yourself that your wasting precious time worrying about it. That said, do what you can do to prevent the things that tempt you to worry. We have ourselves to live with and the opportunity to make it good by trying as hard as we can to watch carefully, what we tell ourselves privately. With each negative thought replace it with a positive thought. If you are going through something awful, don’t be hard on yourself for feeling sad, just do what you can to keep your chin up and it will pass. If overall your life is good, and you’ve tried everything to feel cheery or to smile to the point of exhaustion or crying a lot, and it doesn’t pass, please get help. Either Counseling or medication or both is ok no matter what anyone else says. It’s been proven that a depressed person’s brain works differently and for whatever reason sometimes a person can’t change it by thinking positive. Try your best and if that doesn’t work go to the doctor. Too many people have killed themselves or committed crimes only because their brain was not functioning normally, and they didn’t get medical help. I think of it as, if my leg had a cut that got infected, and it kept getting worse, I would eventually go and get it fixed, or it would keep getting worse until I die.
4. Find what makes you happy and do it -Please don’t take that statement to mean anything self-destructive. ex.drinking to much, drugs, staying in toxic relationships, etc. For me, it’s reading a good book, being creative, taking a nap, spending time with my family, etc. Try to know the difference between waiting on and catering to the family as happiness. It’s good for them to see you as a person and not a machine. Caring for your family is good and will give you some pleasure but try to have something that’s yours. Something for yourself that you have a time set aside to do a little of every day, or a lot on some days. Find your balance within your circumstances. Someday your children will move on and if you have other interests other than just them, you will be a lot happier.
5. Don’t say yes to everything – Whether it’s how good it makes you feel when you’re proving to someone you will do it, or you’ll get more jewels in your crown in heaven, or a bigger mansion in heaven…I’ve heard so many reasons. It can backfire with severe burn out that shows itself in ways that you may not always see coming. No one wants to be the one that ignored their children or husband, was cranky and yelled all the time, or tried to control every person around them. But that’s some of the things that could happen if you’re serving everyone else and never taking care of yourself. You have your tolerance level, and I found out that mine is very minimal and different than some people I know. I tire more quickly, experience more severe PMS every month, and I get frazzled if I have too many deadlines or too much to do without fun time. The next person can go on 4 hours sleep, work and go to school at the same time. Or some children can play three different instruments and sports year round and get straight A’s in school. That wasn’t me although I did try. Everyone’s different, and that includes children. Everyone can do what they want if they work hard and put their mind to it, but be careful as to what you might be sacrificing now, and make sure it isn’t going to become a big regret later.
6. Have a friend, be a friend- Some friends won’t be around forever, but it’s always wonderful to have a friend that you have something in common with or you seem to get along so well. Try not to make it all about you and don’t wait for them to initiate every time you get together. I’m guilty of this myself, mainly because I tend to prioritize getting things done, but that is less important than friendships.
7. Say you’re sorry when you think you’ve offended someone or did something wrong. Especially to your children and spouse. You will feel much better and will be more lovable because people will see that you don’t think your Miss or Mr. Perfect. LOL
8. Eat healthy. Low vitamin b can cause depression and tiredness, low iron will cause weakness and low energy, etc. If you can afford to eat organic and avoid all the chemicals, go for it. I believe they could affect us but if we can’t do anything about it, forget about it or be content with what you can do. If you are truly happy denying yourself of all the guilty pleasures in what you eat go right ahead. Otherwise eat that dessert once in a while and savor, slowly, every last bite.
9. Consider someone else’s advice especially people older than you. They’ve been where you, are and you just might save yourself a lot of heartache and trouble if you take their advice. Maybe some things they say are obviously wrong for you but keep an open mind. Also, it makes a person feel good when someone acknowledges their wisdom.
10. Make a Change of Scenery – take a walk in the rain, walk barefoot in the grass, go somewhere different to eat or have a picnic, visit someone – don’t forget Mom. Go for a drive. With information at our fingertips, it is easier than ever before to find things going on in the community, new hiking trails, or historical places to check out. It’s amazing what changing the routine can do.
Is there a specific thing that you do to help your mood if you’re having a bad day? Tell me about it in the comments below!