If I asked anyone who is not a mother what a mother wants I ‘m not sure they would say the same thing I that want as a mother. Nevertheless, I’ll tell you who aren’t mothers and those of you who are mothers, the one thing I want.
The Little Things
A mother has to experience giving birth, and while pregnant she can’t help to worry that the pain will be too much to bare. After her baby is born, she realizes that all the pain has a significant reward. The love she experiences for her child is like no other.
Throughout her child’s life, she enjoys experiences and memories she will never forget and hold forever in her heart. She’ll remember little things her son said, times her daughter was in pain, times she was frustrated with her child, and times she looked at her children in awe with the reality of the miracle they are.
How Could She Ask For More
Since a mother receives benefits she never dreamed of, she already has so much. It’s honorable to have a day named for her, to show her you care for her, and to visit her. As a mother myself I enjoy it. But I don’t need that particular day to be a happy mom! My children have given me more joy than I expected already. All of the years they have been alive have made my life fuller. They gave me gifts all along the way without knowing it!
What I Want as a Mother
Life isn’t fair, and when there is a problem with a mother’s child, it can become her whole world, and cause sadness throughout her life. It’s loss, and painful. What I’m talking about is a child’s happiness. For most people, if a child is in pain; the mother feels the pain. She feels it in her heart and mind and yearns for her child to feel better.
Although I have had many let downs and struggles in my life, my kids have been a gift. What I want most is for them to be happy. The kind of happiness that comes with a satisfaction of who they are as a person, and a desire to love life in spite of its unwanted surprises. My child doesn’t have to have a fancy career, a new home, the best clothing, children of their own, successful plans, or anything specific. I want my kids to do what they love to do as best as they can, no matter how little the pay, or simple or busy their life is. If they continue to work toward what they want and choose to live in a way that satisfies them, not me, I am happy. I am ecstatic, thrilled beyond words, joyful, and my heart is warmed and full. When life throws a wake-up call to them, and they have to suffer the consequences, I will be hopeful that they can get back on track.
I could watch my child go through years of turmoil, and if they somehow were free from depression, and didn’t give up, I would be a happy mom. Life brings struggles. As long as my children understand what life is about, to love others and themselves by their actions, I am glad.
I would imagine this would be enough for most mothers and it’s enough for me. I believe my children get it. They see the answers in many ways and are still learning. But most of all they bring me great joy, to know they are happy and enjoying life. What more could a mother want!
Yes, it seems only fair to expect our children to keep in touch and visit us regularly. But do we know the future of our child? Do we have the right to fill them with guilt if they want to live somewhere far from us? It could be that when your child grows up, they would desire an entirely different life than what you would want for them. I feel it is only fair to accept what they choose and to be supportive in every way we can. Our children don’t owe us their lives. It is their life.
So, to those of you who have young children keep in mind that you are effectively teaching them to live a full and happy life. Enjoy them thoroughly while they are with you because they might move far away some day. The only and best thing we can do for ourselves is to have other sources of happiness besides our kids.
We must keep doing other things we love and continue socializing with other adults. When the kids move out, it is a huge adjustment for some Mom and Dad’s. Keeping your interests going throughout your child rearing years will help you be focused on your kid’s happiness when they move out rather than how much you miss them.